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Usually, that kind of reaction is happened when we look at someone at the first time and we like them. We react like that because of so many things that happened inside our brain. All of it, discussed in the “Science of Sexual Appeal” that I watched last week in Sexual Behavior class. From that documentation, we will know what happen when we look at the opposite sex. The way we look at the opposite sex, the way we hear, and the way we smell affect us how we perceive the opposite sex. But in this post, I will tell you about what I got from the documentation and it’s not mentioned in the documentation. It would be good if you watched the documentation first before read this blog, and I appreciate your comment and critics about my post.

Alright, in here I will tell you things that I got from that documentation, some that didn’t mention in the documentation, which is: (1) The science of love at the first sight; (2) How genetically homosexual love each other; and (3) How we can avoid what we called, ‘affair’.

Before we go there, let’s discuss the major things from this documentation. This documentation discuss 3 major things about sexual appeal. First is how we look at someone; second is how we hear at someone; third is how we smell at someone.

First, about how we look at someone. When we look at someone, we often said, “Damn she’s very hot!!!” or “That guy is so handsome!”. Actually what happen when we said someone pretty/handsome or not? Pretty/handsome face is showing us femininity/masculinity. But what our brain does when we look at someone until we can say that someone is pretty/handsome? Our brain compute to find something. Something that scientist said as ‘The Golden Ratio’. What is this ‘The Golden Ratio’? The documentation told us that ‘The Golden Ratio’ is ratio that we really like to look at. The principle of Golden Ratio is everywhere, including human’s face. ‘The Golden Ratio’ is already inside our brain to search for the perfect one, by only looking at someone’s face. Because of that, when we look at someone, we automatically find the perfect Golden Ratio to know our perfect partner. This Golden Ratio is not only for the face, but also for the body itself. That’s why, when we look at someone’s body, especially men looking at women, we are more arouse if we look at the hourglass body rather than flat or fat body. Why is that, because the hourglass body is a sign for men to know if this woman perfect to bearing our child in her womb or not.

Okay, that was a little about ‘The Golden Ratio’. Now we will discuss, still in the way we look, about how we walk. What is the reason that we look at someone’s walk? Well, the science fact is, the way someone’s walking make us know if that someone is capable enough to bear our child or not. The reason? In the documentation, we can recognize if it’s women or men just by the way they’re walk. Well, I’m not going to discuss anymore about it, so let’s continue to what we hear.

 All of us like to hear voices, that’s why most of us like musics with vocal in it. But there are characteristics with voices that makes us think if someone sexy or not. For example, we love to hear woman’s voice that very calming, with a high pitch of tone. While we also like to hear men’s low pitch of tones. The pitch tone can make us arouse only just hearing them.

Okay, it’s time to discuss about smell. After we’re in relationship, we always together with that someone, and we always smell their scents. Each person have a different scent and there’s no two person have the same scents. This scents produce by our sweat and, yeah, it smells like sweat, sour smelly thing. But sometimes we like it and we think it’s sexy. So, what is the role of scent that scientist called pheromone itself? It is actually have an important role, for avoiding incest. If we have a relatives, we can’t fall in love with them, why? We hate their scents. In that way, we will avoid our relatives and not having incest at all.

Now, there are some things that would happen to women when they’re in their ovulation period. The way they speak, the way they smell, the way they walk, their face, will be different only for that ovulation period. They will be prettier, they will walk sexier, they will speak with higher pitch of tones, and they will think that the sweat of men become sexier. Why is this happened? Well, women in ovulation day will search for men to fertilize them, that’s why biologically, they will become sexier than another time on the month.

Okay, we already discuss about 3 major things in sexual appeal from the documentation. Now it’s time for you to know the three question that I mention earlier. “Why we sometimes have love at the first sight?”, “What is happen with someone who genetically gay falling in love?”, and “How we can avoid affair?”

Why can we have love at the first sight? Some of you might have notice about this. Remember about “The Golden Ratio”? When we look at someone, our brain compute to search for the best partner ever in our life. That’s why we will look at someone who is pretty, have a sexy body, and so on. “The Golden Ratio” have an important role in here. When we get the perfect of “The Golden Ratio”, that moment we will fall in love with them. After that, we will look how they walk, and if it goes smooth, we will like their scents, and we also will love to hear their voices. So what is love at the first sight? For me, it’s a mere luck that someone get from looking at pretty face, sexy body, sexy walk, and go to the sexy voice, and sexy smell. That’s why only few person get the love at the first sight, not all of us get that.

How someone who is genetically gay falling in love? This is also the question I asked to my dean (the lecturer is my dean) after I watched the documentation. If the gay person is genetically gay, that means there’s something wrong with his brain so the way he perceive is, he like men. Until now, we don’t know which part is wrong with those who genetically gay. But, when I listened to the answer of my dean, I realize that, maybe those who is genetically gay, a part of woman brain inside him, especially the way he perceive man and woman. So he perceive men as their partners, but women as their friends. In this case, their way of think, is more like women rather than men, so that’s why they fall in love with men, not with women.

So how we can avoid the affair? Well, we always want to having more than one partner, even after we married, we sometimes look at another person and think about the other person. Why is this happen? Because biologically, we want to have more partner to having our offspring become more and more. But how we can avoid this urge? Well, this urge to having sex with anyone that is hot or sexy, is happened in the back of our brain, and everything is decided in the front side of our brain. Even we have the urge to having sex with someone, we still can hold it with our own rationality right? So if we want to hold on to our own marriage, even you look at someone, think something your partner have that the other person don’t. That way, you can hold your marriage. And don’t think anything about divorce. It’s okay if you quarrel a little, if you have miss-communication sometimes, the thing is, how you hold together your love with all the problems you will facing.

So, if you want to find a perfect partner, don’t look at somewhere far, your body already said which one is the perfect one for you, biologically.